i feel like if i didn't address this it would be a disservice to the blog and the experience.
yes, i'm watching the ceremony. yes, i am partially excited...yet partially annoyed. i want to celebrate the fairy tale-ness of this whole scenario because, heck...i'm a girl. i like dresses. i like the idea of committing myself to the man i will eventually love. forever.
i am not ashamed.
but, i'm trying to figure out what is really bothering me about this whole thing.
maybe it's because i read this earlier in the week. maybe it's because i'm having a hard time understanding why these things are to be expected of her once she joins the wolf pact that is the royal family.
the liberal, post-modern female in me has lots of...questions.
i have a hard time accepting that a person has to follow certain rules when those certain rules are seemingly for display purposes only. it's make believe. it's superficial. it's predictable, safe...and well, fake. not to mention patriarchal and archaic. jerry understands where i'm coming from.
the bride is an educated woman. she went to university. she has a degree. now she can't vote. now she can't hold a political opinion or do anything to push the envelope, challenge, critically reflect or play devil's advocate...even just for the day. maybe behind closed doors, out of the public eye...it's cool. it's becoming obviously apparent my struggle with such a thing.
(pause)
see? i would make an awful queen.
2 comments:
I hear you Hayles, I'm intrigued by all of this, but how that Ms. Kate doesn't need or have to conform to what is tradition or required. The girl has to change her name to something of William of Whales....I'd still want to be Kate, and Kate, not Katharine.
yeah...and what's the deal about kate wearing a wedding band and not william? i don't understand.
i understand the importance of respecting the monarchy...but some of these 'traditions' just seem absurd and rooted in patriarchy, still. absolutism once ruled. not now. we have a democratic system in place.
the underlining theme here is: neutrality. and, that's my issue. marrying into the royal family means dedicating your life's work to charity, because that's the only thing one can do that closely resembles a career or having a voice, an opinion. which, granted, charity is a great thing...if that's what YOU want at the end of the day. maybe kate wants that.
i don't know. and i shouldn't judge.
it just seems like a lot of unnecessary pressure and expectation to have to walk out when outside of the royal family, society seems a bit further along.
maybe this is a learning opportunity for myself in the concept of 'compromise'. who knows.
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